“You’re Not Too Much—They’re Just Too Little.”

Reclaiming your emotional needs and voice

Let’s talk about that phrase that haunts so many of us:
"You’re just too much."

Too emotional. Too needy. Too intense. Too sensitive.
Sound familiar?

We get labeled as “too much” because we feel deeply, speak truthfully, and love loudly—and instead of seeing that as a strength, some people make us believe it’s a problem.

But here's the truth: you’re not too much. They’re just too little.

Too emotionally unavailable.
Too unwilling to do the work.
Too self-absorbed to meet someone halfway.
Too afraid of intimacy to receive the depth you offer.

Being told you're "too much" is code for, "I can’t handle you showing up fully, so I’d rather you shrink."

I remember being in a relationship where every time I cried, he shut down. Every time I needed emotional reassurance, I was met with silence or sighs. At first, I thought I was broken. I started apologizing for needing connection, for having boundaries, for speaking up when I felt neglected.

But over time, I realized the problem wasn’t me—it was that I was asking a child to hold something that required adult hands.

Emotional starvation is real. And many of us are living on crumbs, calling it a feast because we’re afraid we’ll never find better.

But you will. The world is full of people who want depth. Who crave real connection. Who can hold your heart and not flinch.

You were never too much. You were just with someone who was unwilling to expand.

So if you've ever been made to feel like you had to shrink to stay loved, I want to hear from you.
What did it take for you to finally believe you were never the problem?